Maybe the closest you've come to come to finding a man you were actually interested in was that guy you met on Match a few months ago, and went one two seemingly-amazing dates with...
...until he dropped the "I'm not really looking for anything serious - that cool with you?" bomb.
Or the man who messaged you on OkCupid for two weeks, showering you with attention, compliments, and details of the romantic dinner he was going to cook for your first date...
...and then he completely ghosted you.
Or the man you connected with on Bumble, and were truly excited about - handsome, smart, kind, active, a total catch...
...only to discover from his Facebook account that he was already caught - because he's MARRIED.
You finally admit it: Online dating just isn't working for you anymore...
...and being single feels lonely.
And it’s not fair.
You’re awesome and have so much to offer the right man: successful career, close friends and family, and you make a mean spicy turkey chili.
After cultivating such a great life but still crawling into bed alone every night, it's almost impossible to stop the thoughts of self-doubt from creeping in…
Is something wrong with me?
Are all the good men taken?
Am I going to be single forever??
You’re more than ready to meet a quality guy who appreciates you, and who’s also ready for a relationship.
You've tried all the online dating sites. All the new apps. You even hired a (totally ineffective) matchmaker.
But you're still no closer to finding a great guy than you were this time last year. Or, *sigh*, the year before that.
You have a feeling you're missing opportunities every day to attract love in your life...
But what you may not know is, it's NOT your fault...
There is something a lot more insidious at work, keeping the odds of you attracting a great partner stacked against you...
The Truth Is, There Are 3 Secret Forces…
...that are actively working to keep you single.
We'll call them Dating Enemy #1, #2, and #3.
But just because they're pulling the strings in your love life right now, doesn't mean you have to keep letting them.
Awareness is the first step to freedom.
So, let's bring some awareness up in here, stat...
Dating Enemy #1: Our On-Demand, "Endless Choices" Consumer Culture
In the past few years, the dating world has changed drastically.
And many would say not for the better.
The number of ways to "meet" someone today is beyond overwhelming, making the number of singles in the dating pool seem endless.
Our fast-consumption social media culture uses this to create an epidemic of FOMO ("fear of missing out"), where investing in one person encourages the fear that you might miss out on a better option who's just one more swipe away.
Not to mention that if you have an online profile somewhere, you're sharing your personal likes, dislikes, photos, relationships, and major life events, long before you've ever even said hello to the strangers who are privy to all of that.
All of these factors allow the cover of your book to be judged, attacked, or passed over, without the chance to be actually seen and understood for who you truly are.
Which leads to Enemy #2...
Dating Enemy #2: Boys Behaving Badly Behind a Screen
Technology allows people to hide behind a screen, enabling them to do and say horrible things to each other without any real repercussions (and without even leaving the house).
It also encourages people to treat others like disposable commodities.
OkCupid, Tinder, porn... they all operate (and thrive) on this instant, fast-food culture where people hide behind a screen.
If you're like most women who've dated online or used dating apps, you've probably been ghosted, sent an "unsolicited" picture (or five), lied to, sexually harassed, bullied, stalked, or worse.
As one woman on Quora described the online dating world, in her own words…